Finale

Finality... in any event, relationship, or endeavor is the end, or is it? This year I experienced saying goodbye to some very special people. One I barely knew that was very young and another who was like a Father to me and very elderly.

The loss of the younger (barely a 21 year old) left me unhinged for weeks. Often to the point of trying to find the reasons why it happened. I unconsciously launched an investigation in my own mind to figure out why this senseless situation could have occured. The only thing I can do for this relative (was to be possibly be wed to my niece) is to do something in his honor.

The second death (in order only) left me with many gentle emotions such as happiness for having known my Father in law. Truly a man worth emmulating. My own father is getting up in years and I keep in close contact with him to remind him daily that he is cared for - has many wonderful qualities as well.

There is a possibility that all the cliche and trite things people say after a person dies are somewhat true. In remembering the people who have progressed to heaven, hell, the afterlife or for some just plain nothing we carry on their likes and dislikes. I am finding it in the meal we made the other night (ended up being a past favorite of Dad M) or the possibility of a web site to commemorate someone's interest.

We all carry on ...